15 Tips for Healthier, Happier Relationships.

Every relationship is unique and has its own beauty and charisma. Along with this it also has its set of responsibilities, commitments, ups and downs. You have to understand that relationships are based on trust, compassion, unconditional love, willingness to compromise (at times), willingness to adapt change (if required).
To sustain that uniqueness, charisma and make the relation strong and happy, there are a few techniques (way of being).
These techniques will help in understanding and supporting each other by addressing the concerns effectively and smoothly. These techniques can help anyone whether any relationship is just starting out or have been together for years.
By adapting these tips you can be more aware with the circumstances and situations and can act/ behave in a sound way. It also helps in staying in full awareness and present and understand your partner.

1. Become best friends: Have a frank relationship by providing space and mindful listening. Make the other person comfortable to share and talk about anything and everything.

2. Communicate: Talk about everything good as well as bad. Do not presume the other person to know everything, always be verbal. While a great deal of emphasis in our society is put on talking, along with talking you can learn to listen in a way that makes another person feel valued and understood, you can build a deeper, stronger connection between you. There’s a big difference between listening in this way and simply hearing. When you really listen-when you’re engaged with what’s being said-you’ll hear the subtle intonations in your partner’s voice that tells you how they’re really feeling and the emotions they’re trying to communicate.

3. Be there for one another: Be present physically as well as mentally for the other person whenever there is the need for it. Every person has their own concerns, problems and issues and works through problems and issues in their own way. Remember that you’re a team. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the rough spots.

4. Appreciate each other: Do not miss a single opportunity to appreciate the other person. No matter how you choose to show your affection, though, expressing your appreciation of your significant other — and not just on Valentine’s Day. Make the person feel valuable and good when they have done any good deed.

5. Be Honest: Be honest and frank in whatever you say & do with the other person. It’s much easier and more fun to be authentic than to pretend to be something or someone else. It’s a base of healthy relationship.

6. Build Trust: Make the other person have complete trust in you by behaving and doing things that will help in building trust towards you. Good communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people know what they want from the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you. This in turn will lead to healthy, strong relation.

7. Make time for each other: Give good time to the person. Spend quality and quantity time with each other. No matter how busy you are, take a few minutes each day to put aside your electronic devices, gadgets, daily chores, stop thinking about other things, and really focus on and connect with your partner.

8. Leave the past to the past: Discuss the past, communicate, analyse, learn and then leave it, drop it, move on. This also includes your “ex’s”. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the here-and-now to solve the problem and move towards your mutual goal.

9. Be Faithful: Always be faithful with each other. Do not lie or manipulate. From trust springs respect, and both are necessary for sharing, interaction and growth. And it’s during times of stress and uncertainty, when your mutual commitment can be subject to doubt, that you truly discover how much – or how little – you trust one another.

10. Arguments are normal: Know that arguments are normal. Have healthy arguments and don’t take it further, drop it and move ahead. There might not be any conclusion. We need to understand that there is no competition, or to prove ourselves. Arguments are signs of care and concern.

11. Don’t expect Change: Do not expect any change in other person. Do not even try to make changes. Acknowledge that everyone is unique. If required communicate it but do not expect there to be change. Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise. On the flip side, it’s also important for your partner to recognize your wants and for you to state them clearly. Constantly giving to others at the expense of your own needs will only build resentment and anger.

12. Appreciate the Flaws: Always appreciate the flaws by knowing that, they are the way they are, due to many factors. If you expect to get what you want 100% of the time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. No one can be exactly the way you might want them to be. Healthy relationships mean accepting people as they are and not trying to change them. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.

13. You won’t always be Happy: One must know that being happy is in us. You won’t always be on the same page. Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the death of a close family member. Other events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other. You might have different ideas of managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstandings can rapidly turn to frustration and anger. One must not rely on other person’s behaviour or actions for us to be happy. You will not always be happy. There will be low and sad times.

14. Value each other’s Beliefs: Know each other’s beliefs & thoughts. Respect & Value them. There is no need to change as per other person’s beliefs until you feel the need to. But do not disrespect them. Do not judge them. If you can’t come to an agreement, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on.

15. Lastly, Love each other Unconditionally: Love each other beyond any condition & boundaries. Do not have any conditions or do’s and don’ts attached to love. Each of you make the other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled. There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without the partners truly relating to each other emotionally. While the union may seem stable on the surface, a lack of ongoing involvement and emotional connection serves only to add distance between two people.

Finally, willingness and intent to achieve the goal of happier and healthier relationship by both the partners is all that matters.