FEAR
What comes first in mind when we hear word ‘FEAR’?
Negative Emotion !
Let me tell you that fear also has positive aspect to it. Fear is an human emotion that can help protect you from danger and prepare you to take action but if it last for long it can lead to anxiety.
FEAR CAN BE DEFINED AS :-
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real.
Our fears are in fact irritational beliefs that we have about ourselves, our actions, objects, other people or events. These fears only appear to be real within the recesses of our minds. However, they have no basis in reality. They are made up interpretations that we make about things within the physical world.
Just think — Why one person is afraid of spiders while another person confidently handles them in palm of their hand.
IS THE SPIDER THAT GIVES LIFE TO THIS FEAR ?
OR
IS IT AN INTERPRETATION THAT IS MADE WITHIN THE MIND OF THE INDIVIDUAL WHO SEES THE SPIDER ?
Fear is nothing but the uncertainty we feel about the outcomes, circumstances & about the unpredictability of future events. We don’t want to touch the spider because of the uncertainty that it might actually harm us.
CONSEQUENCES
- Fear creates resistance that pulls you away from opportunities and puts you into comfort zone.
- Every time you give into your fear, you are inviting insecurity which leads to lack of confidence.
- Fear leads to destructive behaviors in the forms of habit of laziness, procrastination, self-doubting, purposefully neglecting our responsibilities.
- If fear is dictating our daily decisions & actions, then hesitancy will dominate our behavior & will take us to our comfort zone, which will be hurdle in our emotional & intellectual growth.
- Fear is a big hurdle in our motivation towards anything because they block our lives with irrational obstacles that seem too difficult & overwhelming to deal with. • Fear may hold you back from developing key sets of skills. This can happen as process of experience & can go through challenges, obstacles & problems.
- Fear plays a major role in effective decision making in all aspects of life.
TIPS & TECHNIQUES TO OVERCOME FEAR
First and foremost, acknowledge that it exists within your reality. Validate your fear, Understand it. Then find out where it originates from? Find the sourse. This can be done by asking questions like: –
How did I originally come to fear this?
How does this fear have hold on me?
- Then determine the consequences of fear by asking yourself:-
In what way this fear is helping me?
What will I lose if I continue to hold on this fear?
What will I gain if I overcome this fear?
- Then plan ahead of possible scenarios that could unfold as you move ahead beyond this fear. This includes of identifying the techniques that can help you deal with different scenarios of your fear from an emotional, physical, spiritual & mental perspectives.
This can be done by :-
# Stop excuses
# Turn your “should” into “musts”
# Take actions
# Practice self-care
# Don’t try to be perfect
# Reward yourself
# Breath slowly/ deeply (be aware)
# Take about it / join a selfhelp group
# Take help / see a therapist
# Know that failure is inevitable
HAVE FAITH INSTEAD OF FEAR !!!